advice to self

This blog and I have an interesting relationship. I will be fully engaged for weeks on end and then a fallow season comes and months go by with nothing.

Usually I dance and rejoice in those life-full weeks as writing down the little (and big) things prove to be needed and enlivening therapy. These posts allow me to grab hold of all of those insignificant details that becomes so cherished later.

But, in those times of fallow, when nothing comes to mind, when my camera sits silently in its drawer, when I back-slide into old habits and think that there is nothing in me worth remembering, I become overwhelmed by guilt. I forget that the point is not to post consistently, but to post honestly. 

seekthewelfare | advice to self

One of my dear friends has just moved to South Korea. Wanting to blog her journey, she asked me how. It's funny how writing advice for other people so often comes right back around at ourselves. I found myself not writing "how" but "why," all the while soaking in how deeply I needed to hear those same words myself.

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TIP #1 Just write. ... The beauty comes in the simple, the honest, and the understandable...

TIP #2 Find a structure. ... Daily posting is my favorite because it quickly becomes habit. It also captures so many of the little everyday moments that we so often write off as unimportant in the moment and then crave so deeply when that moment passes. ... You ask about voice. The only times I have had difficulty finding my writer's voice has been when I've been trying to use someone else's. ...

TIP #3 Decide who you're writing to. ... doing this brings a unity to the tone, rhythm, and demeanor. ...

TIP #4 Remember that ultimately, this blog is for you to look back on. It's for you to remember. So enjoy it. It doesn't have to be perfect...in fact, it will be far far better if it isn't.

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In light of these thoughts, I will be working to once again fold in those every day moments. Moments that won't up my readership, won't be attractive to a larger audience, may not mean anything to anyone besides me....because perhaps, if I'm honest, you'll be better able to see where I'm coming from. Maybe, if I'm honest, you'll be encouraged. Because if I'm honest, there can be moments of "Oh you too? I thought I was the only one."

So little everyday trivia, hello. Let's be friends.